Today’s post is a very special guest post by Katie over at Dating Bitch on how self-improvement can improve your relationship. If you love this post as much as I do, be sure to leave a comments below!
What is Self-Improvement?
Self-care is a pretty big buzzword nowadays, but there’s another, equally important concept that’s worth discussing. Self-improvement (or, as it’s often called, personal growth/development) is the act of working to become a better version of who you are.
It’s not about achieving – or even attempting to achieve perfection. Rather, self-improvement is about trying to better yourself. And it’s arguably the most important aspect of self-care. Because not only will it help you, striving for self-improvement will improve your relationship with everyone around you.
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6 Ways Self-Improvement will Improve Your Relationship
1. It will Increase Your Self Reflection Skills
Self-improvement is all about being able to look at your own weaknesses, find areas for improvement, and take action. That takes a lot of openness to begin with – a lot of people struggle with just admitting their own faults.
By simply being willing to look at your own flaws, you’re already a step ahead. And this will go a long way towards helping your relationship, too. That ability to reflect on your own flaws is an important part of being a good partner. With that kind of self-reflection, you can really hone in on where you might need to improve as a partner.
2. It will Improve Your Confidence
By working on improving yourself, you’re naturally going to start feeling more confident. And everyone knows you glow differently when you’ve got a bunch of confidence backing you up.
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3. It will Help You Set Better Boundaries
Boundaries are so important in a relationship – you have to know what you’re capable of giving and be able to express that effectively. Someone who is actively attuned to themselves, then, will know their own boundaries. Plus, they’ll have the confidence to enforce them. Which, in the end, will only help your relationship flourish.
4. It will Lead to a More Positive Attitude
Let’s face it – no one wants to be around a Debbie Downer. By working on your self-improvement, you definitely won’t be that person. Instead, you’ll be the kind of person who actively strives to become their best self. The kind of person who genuinely believes they can better themselves. Naturally, this will lead to a more positive outlook on life, which in turn, will make your relationships that much more meaningful.
5. It will Help You Become More Giving and Generous
Part of self-improvement is learning to become a better version of you. And most people could be more loving, giving, and generous to those around them. If you’re actively practicing that, you’ll end up being kinder and more helpful to everyone in your life. Which will really help improve your relationship.
6. It will Help You Have a More Secure Attachment Style
Along with having more confidence and a more positive outlook, you can develop a more secure attachment style when you actively work on self-improvement.
While some people might already be securely attached, a lot of us struggle with some anxious or dismissive tendencies. This is different from self-esteem – though, related, of course. In short, being securely attached means you can let your partner have a bad day without assuming you did something wrong.
So, when your partner is having a bad day, you’ll be ready to listen to the actual reason without letting your own insecurities get in the way. You’ll be more present in your relationship and it’ll be stronger in the end.
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Ways to Work on Self-Improvement
Just like with self-care, you can work on self-improvement in a number of ways. Since the whole point of self-improvement is learning how to improve what you feel you need to improve, it’ll look different for everyone.
But, there are plenty of ideas that can get you started. Here are some of the best ways to work on self-improvement:
- Read more often
- Learn a new skill
- Practice gratitude – write down 3 things you’re thankful for
- Declutter your surroundings
- Eat healthy and exercise
- Keep a Journal
- Make a list of your accomplishments
- Practice positive affirmations
- Compliment someone around you randomly
- Try mediation
What are your favorite ways of working on self-improvement? Share them in the comments below!
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